10 things never to say to a childless woman over 50 - believe me

[wolfpurplemoon]

I’m over 50. I don’t have kids. And you would not believe the clumsy, insensitive and at times cruel things that have been said to me, not only by strangers but also family and so-called friends.

As someone who did want kids, it’s especially infuriating – and if you think that your childless friends aren’t also infuriated, then they just haven’t let you see it. I know they are, because as someone who has written a lot about this subject, I’ve had plenty of people contact me privately to thank me for doing so.

I know (most) people are just trying to make their childless (I can’t embrace the word ‘childfree’ yet) friends and loved ones feel better. Just trying to help and soothe. And that is kind and appreciated and lovely. Thank you.

I know how hard it is to see someone you love in this kind of pain, especially if you feel embarrassed and awkward because you do have children. It’s one of those situations, yes, where you feel you can’t say the right thing.

And that is sort of true. But if you can avoid saying any of the following, then at least you’re not going to make things worse. So here goes... (read more)

I wanted to share because the woman who wrote this article has a slightly different point of view to many here, as she did want kids but never had them, but she still suffers from the interfering busybodies in her life constantly questioning and trying to "help".