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Mx Wolfie (they/them) ([personal profile] wolfpurplemoon) wrote in [community profile] childfree2017-12-27 08:52 am

Thanks for calling childfree people selfish



I'm glad whoever she is has made a decision that works for her but she doesn't need to throw childfree people under the bus.

Is it really so altruistic to become a mother?

[personal profile] ex_hellrider602 2017-12-27 05:12 pm (UTC)(link)
I really like how respectfully you commented this title :)

IMHO, someone who does not want kids is not necessarily selfish, and someone who does is not necessarily altruistic.

Yes, we all know that being a parent demands a lot of sacrifice. But if we think about how much respect and social acceptance this role is associated with, then the whole thing does not seem to be _that_ altruistic. Am I too arrogant?

Re: Is it really so altruistic to become a mother?

[personal profile] ex_hellrider602 2017-12-30 07:15 pm (UTC)(link)
My impression is that this woman has always wanted kids, it just took some time for her to be ready for it. She did not say "I used to be against becoming a parent but I changed my mind."


Yeah. It might be unselfish to not have kids - f.ex. if someone has serious personal and mental problems, it would be not too responsible to have kids. Not being able to give the attention, care and material things that children need, BUT posing in the role of the Sacrificing Mother - would it be so altruistic?