Welcome to Childfree!

[wolfpurplemoon]

Introduce yourself here - I'm a 32 year old British cis woman in a long term relationship and am steadfastly childfree and have no plans to ever change my mind on that!

I'd love to see posts about your experiences as a childfree person, how you deal with the inevitable bingoes (especially if you are married/in a LTR) and any rants and raves you have about negotiating a world that seems to worship pregnancy and parenthood. Hey even let us know all the fun things you get up to that you couldn't manage with a kid or two in tow!

One thing I ask though is no slurs against people who have children or against the children themselves, there are some especially nasty stuff slung at parents, especially mothers and we'll have none of that sort of misogyny (and sometimes racism tbh) here.

Comments

[norfolkian]

Hi there! I'm glad to be here and will write a proper post soon. But just wanted to say I'm so glad to have found a community of childfree people, but that doesn't criticise people who do have children. Let's celebrate/discuss our lifestyle without being dicks about how other people choose to live their lives.

[wolfpurplemoon]

Hi, welcome!

Yeah I've seen and heard so many horrible things from childfree people about children and their parents, especially on the site beginning with r, and it's really not necessary at all and gives childfree people a bad name!

[norfolkian]

I'm also British, by the way, and 33 and married. The badgering about when I was going to have kids was worse after we just got married (5 years ago), but has largely settled down now. I have also got better at shutting conversations down if I don't want to have them. I find giving a confident "no" to being asked if I have children with no follow up explanation usually works in not being asked any further questions. In the past I used to answer less confidently and that used to lead to lots and lots of questions and comments, which used to bug the hell out of me. Needless to say, my husband rarely gets asked whether he has or is intending to have children. :/

[wolfpurplemoon]

Gosh we are collecting early 30s British people here!

Yeah there is definitely a double standard when it comes to asking if someone is having kids - and I totally agree that being more confident about your own childfree feelings definitely helps with dealing with the intrusive questions.